Hookup culture: Also known as the thing that has basically replaced real dating over the past 20 years or so, and the thing that your parents and grandparents bitch about because "nobody has a real conversation anymore."
We all know that's not true, however, and online dating has made a massive impact on more people meeting and talking than every before. And when we think dating sites, we usually think about sites like eharmony and Zoosk and other marriage-minded options. But not every single person is trying to participate in the next cuffing season.
Sometimes, you just wanna get laid.
Everyone gets stuck in a sexual rut at some point, and let's face it: Trying to take strangers home from the bar or constantly hitting up your ex who you know is DTF can get old. But what are you supposed to do? Just not give into your primal urges?
It might be time to let a hookup site or app take the wheel. Here are our picks for the best hookup apps right now:
AdultFriendFinderLive videos, group chats, and more monthly visitors than eharmony makes AFF that friend who just wants you to get laid.
- Free version: Yes
- One month of GOLD: $32.39/month
- Three months of GOLD: $21.58/month
- One year of GOLD: $14.56/month
Why it's awesome: AdultFriendFinder is our pick for the best hookup site, and that's because it's literally impossible to walk away unsatisfied. It's like a Pornhub that you can actually interact with. Regardless of whether you're looking for an in-person hookup or to blow off some steam via sexting or raunchy videos, AFF has everything that your dirty mind can think of and more. Almost nothing is blurred out (no, really, there are lots of unsolicited dick pics), v=but if you don't mind that the entire thing looks like a sketchy "There are hot singles in your area" ad, you'll be in heaven.
With over 25 million monthly users (that's more than eharmony) as well as live video options, chat rooms, groups for ultra specific kinks, and more, you can probably assume how wild this site can get. But there's such a large and diverse group of potential matches, you're very likely to find someone who's on the same page as you. The part that you wouldn't expect is the fact that they do offer tons of compatibility questions and matchmaking services, because they're that intent on finding you a good lay.
Another bonus is that AdultFriendFinder is like the dating site version of New York City (AKA it never sleeps). You'll find people who work the regular 9-5, people who work the night shift, and people in other time zones, so it's nearly impossible to log on and not have people to talk to. AdultFriendFinder is like the booty call that's always awake when you text them.
You can read our full review on AdultFriendFinder and sign up here.
TinderThe place where you'll find everyone you know, a ton of people you don't know, and where you can go to find a date in under 10 minutes.
- Free version: Yes
- Tinder Plus: Starting at $2.99/month
- Tinder Gold: Starting at $4.99/month
Tinder may not want to advertise as such, but we all know what it's mostly used for. Yeah yeah, we know the amount of success stories of happy couples who met on Tinder is growing rapidly, but it's way easier to find a date for the night than it is to find someone looking for a long term relationship. Using Tinder for the latter just wouldn't be smart — you're quite literally deciding if you want to interact with someone based on nothing but profile pictures and a quote from The Office, so yeah, you can see how getting laid would be the main goal of most users. It's fast, easy, and if there's one app that even the shyest, most skeptical people will be on, it's Tinder. Hell, even celebrities can now have verified profiles on there — meaning yes, you could match with one of the if you're really lucky. Sure, you may get carpal tunnel from swiping so much, but I guess that also means that it's nearly impossible to not find someone who's DTF.
Though it's pretty much free for general use, Tinder does offer two upgrades: Tinder Plus and Tinder Gold. These like the opportunity to undo a left swipe (bless), send "Super Likes" to people you're really into, and in the case of Tinder Gold, see which users have liked your profile. Sign up here.
PUREIt's like Snapchat for sex, where hookups are spontaneous and impersonal.
- Free version: Yes
Small talk and all that mushy shit? Ain't nobody got time for that. No, seriously — your uploaded selfies, personal info, and conversations with others self destruct every 60 minutes, promoting spur-of-the-moment and borderline anonymous hookups. The app will ask for your phone number, but that's just to make sure you're a real person. (As the hipster comics on their website state, "Don't talk about your problems. Problems are for therapists. Pure is for fun.") The app uses your geolocation and sends out the sex version of an Uber request, so you won't have to worry about finding out your match actually lives across the country. There's a seriously fun "less talking, more touching" vibe that ramps up the fast-paced atmosphere, taking things to a whole new level.
PURE gives all the feels of a hookup-only site without the obnoxious naked parts everywhere, AKA you won't have to be scared for someone to glance at your phone or computer screen as you would with AdultFriendFinder. AskMen mentions that it "seriously challenges the status quo," and we agree — the surge of blatant sex positivity is a breath of fresh air when compared to other dating apps that try to convince you that you'll find your soulmate. There's no fancy algorithm, no crappy bio jokes, and best of all: no waiting. It will ask for your credit card info, but we promise it's all free. Sign up here.
CloverClover wants to do more than give you an anonymous hot single to bang — and why not actually be friends with your friend with benefits?
- Free version: Yes
- Clover Premium: $19.99/month
Aside from the usual physical appearance, location, and sexual preference questions, Clover also gives you the option of answering 20 profile questions in a similar manner to OkCupid. (If you're impatient, just stick with Tinder or PURE.) There is an option to check that you're only looking to hook up, so you can at least ensure that you won't be giving the wrong idea. While you can swipe to match, you can also request to go on a date (and even suggest a place and time), or create mixer events for multiple users to meet up. (AskMen's Clover reviewer saw a mixer titled "Lol why am I using this app," and we love that.) Note: There is a free version of Clover, but the premium memberships allows for unlimited chatting, plus you'll be able to unlock all photo, video, and badge features. Paying for an app is annoying, but Clover's impressive 4.5 star review and nearly 20,000 ratings on the App Store tells us people think it's worth it).
Our main point? Sometimes it's nice to not be strangers with the person you're having sex with. A lot of hookups usually end in being kicked out of bed at 3 a.m. or leaving before the other person wakes up — but what if you're both lonely and just really like brunch foods? It's nice to know you can hold some sort of conversation and use them for their company as well as their private parts. You can easily get laid and find a a no-strings-attached situation, just with a friendlier dynamic. Does that take the passion and mystery and spontaneity of a random hookup away? Hell no. Plus, if you're also open to a relationship if you meet the right person, Clover is a great happy medium. Sign up here.
HERIdeal for queer women who are tired of heteronormative dating sites and finding the same three lesbians on Tinder.
- Free version: Yes
HER claims to be the app that will "introduce you to every lesbian you've ever wanted to meet" — so if you've been feeling like there are literally no new lesbians left where you live, you'll be pleasantly surprised to watch your hookup possibilities grow before your eyes. It's nice to have genuine options that aren't just straight girls on Tinder looking to make friends or find a threesome partner. A hookup app for lesbians that's not completely sexualized by straight men? Is this real life?
However, HER is so much more than a hookup app, and doesn't even put on the pressure to find a romantic partner. While it can be used for coupling up, it focuses much more on the LGBTQI+ community in general. Your profile is more similar to a Facebook profile, and your feed is filled with things like local LGBTQI+ events, LGBTQI+ news in the media, new lesbian films or TV shows that mainstream Twitter will probably ignore, and tons more — all posted by women who you can talk to if something sparks you interest. See our other picks for the best dating sites for lesbians here and sign up for HER for free here.
MatchIf your age makes you feel like a certified creep on Tinder, Match is a more mature place to find an experienced booty call.
- Free version: Yes
- Three months of paid: $26.99/month
- Six months of paid: $23.99/month
- One year of paid: $20.99/month
One main difference between Match and most of the other sites we've listed (other than AdultFriendFinder maybe) is that Match sees a way more diverse age range. Sure, there are a ton of young people on Match who are probably on Tinder as well, but Match also attracts significantly more older, more mature (and probably more experienced in bed) users. If you're at an age where you feel nothing but creepy on Tinder, Match is a perfect alternative. You'll obviously have to fill out some survey questions about your likes and dislikes, so this isn't the place for impatient people. However, it would be a good idea to let the public know exactly the type of relationship you're looking for in your bio, just to make sure it doesn't get awkward if someone wants a second date. Don't worry, it's less serious than eharmony and gives you much more freedom to clown around — we'd just suggest that you at least be open to the idea of a serious relationship after a hookup if you're gonna be on Match. You have to test drive the car before you buy it, right? (Douchey, but true.)
Match is also clutch because you're pretty much in control: You'll get a certain number of matches that they think you'll like per day, but you also have free reign over the search bar and can see who's nearby. This means you're able to feel out the selection and see if there are any certified hotties in your area, rather than waiting for them to give you choices or going one by one (like on Tinder). They might not have as much in common with you as your suggested matches would, but hey, does that really matter when it comes to a one night stand?
Read our full Match review here and sign up here.
iHookupFind singles to chat with online and get off without leaving the house.
- Free membership: Yes
- One month of Gold: $34.99/month
- Three months of Gold: $22.99/month
- One year of Gold: $9.99/month
On the downside, the website is more of a Facebook for horny people than an all-encompassing hookup site. There aren't nearly as many ways to get involved with other horny members, and that might just be because the user base simply isn't as big. (However, give it a year or two and we wouldn't be surprised if it competed with the ranks of eharmony.) iHookup also offers many "What are you like?" and "What are you looking for?" questions that can be displayed on your profile, and they even give you a "between the sheets" sex compatibility ranking for each user you come across. To see everything the site has to offer, you will have to fork over some coin: A year-long gold membership is only $9.99/month, but one month is $34.99. It seems kind of pricey for a site that hasn't yet made it's mark on the world, but they guarantee that if you don't get a hookup in your first three months, they'll give you three months for free.
Because the member base isn't as robust and is more spread out geographically, you might want to be a little more lenient with your mile radius when it comes to the matches they suggest. You'll probably be able to find a nearby hookup, but iHookup is a way better place for someone looking for a cute sexting partner from another country. Which is totally fine — sometimes you just don't feel like leaving the house. Check out our full review of iHookup here and sign up here.
Cheers to having good, safe, consensual intercourse with strangers, guys. Get your condoms here, and good luck out there.
Looking for something more serious?
- Free membership: Yes
- One month of paid: $29.95
- Three months of paid: $19.98
- Six months of paid: $12.49
Specifying the age range and gender that you're looking for in a partner does squat to narrow down your options. That might be fine for a strict hookup, but finding something past friends with benefits will require a little more help. Considering Zoosk sees a user base of about 40 million members, getting through all profiles that match your requirements could take ages. By monitoring your swiping behavior, Zoosk can tap into your subconscious (okay, not really, but sorta) and give you what you want deep down, even if you don't even know why you're saying yes or no to those profiles.
There is one downside we need to mention, though: The amount of fake or dead profiles makes this place seem like the dating site version of The Walking Dead. Of course, all dating sites have their fair share of duds, but Zoosk is just feeling that plague a bit more intensely (we've heard it's mostly female profiles). Luckily, you can weed these out by looking for a "Currently online" or "Recently online" status.
Like most sites, there is a free version, but it's worthless — AKA you're gonna need to pay to do anything. It's not wildly pricey, and as with any dating site that you need to pay for, it's kind of nice to know that other users are somewhat serious if they're spending their money on it. Zoosk also has a coin system that allows you to boost your profile and get access to other special features, which you can read about in our full review here.
Here's the thing about OkCupid: Their advertising is outstanding. They deserve endless applause just for that, but I realize many people on dating apps care about more than the aesthetics. Though OkCupid's advertisements may have "DTF" plastered all over them, the site's intentions and matchmaking process are no joke. The site takes compatibility factors into account that other sites haven't even thought of.
First things first: and its user base is pretty liberal (which can also translate into "sex positive"). The ads with same-sex couples are an obvious giveaway, but OkCupid has . For instance, they'll ask questions about whether you're for or against the defunding of Planned Parenthood or same sex marriage, and if you feel obligated to help fellow human beings — all as a way to tell right off the bat if your potential match leans left or right. (This can help you avoid awkward date conversations in the future.) , as OkCupid released statistics showing that liberal-leaning answers to those questions made you 80% more likely to find love on the site. Other sites don't go into this type of stuff much past religion, but with politics being more of a hot topic now than ever, you can imagine how torturous it would be to end up with someone who starts an argument with you every time the news is on.
It might take some time and genuine effort to make a profile, but that's what you want if you're looking for something real. You'll fill out a questionnaire with your answers as well as what you would like your ideal match to answer. This makes the application-building process a lot more fun than other apps, making it feel like an online quiz. It asks a range of questions, from simple stuff to if you smoke and drink to more intimate things like how many dates you typically wait before sleeping with someone. Pro tip: The app says the the more questions you answer, the better your matches will be. The deeper you go, the more accurate your profile is — and in turn, OkCupid will have a way easier time finding matches for you. The downside? This question answering can get tedious AF. You can for sure find a hookup here eventually, but don't come here looking to find a good lay within a few hours.
Read our full review here.
- Free version: Yes
- One month of paid: $59.95
- Six months of paid: $39.95/month
- One year of paid: $18.95/month
After their debut in 2000 and nearly 20 years of matchmaking, you can guess that the algorithm really knows what it's doing. eharmony has an intense 29-dimension compatibility system with a lengthy quiz that focuses on your long-term success as a couple. (People just looking for a hookup probably won't put themselves through that.) There is an option for local dating, however many of eharmony’s success stories feature couples who were living states apart before they met (if you want to cry happy tears, read those). Once you’ve completed your questionnaire, eharmony will provide you with matches so you don’t have to browse profiles. For some, this may not be enough freedom, but for those who aren’t great at choosing partners or have no clue what they need, this may be a breath of fresh air.
The questions are pretty standard and are similar to what most other in-depth dating sites will ask. You'll give yourself a rating on prompts like "I'm an honest partner," with sliding scale responses. On paper, asking deep questions like these right off the bat makes total sense when pairing two people together — but they're so basic and annoying. As much as you'd like to lie to feel better about yourself, you know deep down that's not the way to a healthy relationship. Admitting that you're not as mature in a certain area is key to eharmony matching you with someone who complements you. SO DON'T LIE.
This all sounds pretty nice, right? You're just about on track to finding a spouse. Oh, except, we're sorry to drop this bomb on you, but eharmony does not offer up their romance services for cheap. (We understand why, but still.) Their prices fluctuate regularly, with one month coming in at around $60 — but like with most subscription websites, the longer you stay, the cheaper it gets.
Read our full eharmony review here.